Buka and the 4 competences you need for 2019-2023. This article is for readers from 18 years of age.

Note: May be 18+. It may contain obscene words and strong language.

I asked my new colleague Lena (although she likes to be addressed and written by LENA) to describe, based on her research, the most characteristic picture of the life of modern man, which has several characteristics:
diligence, caring for others, ambition, honesty, openness, willingness to develop. Here are her surprising observations:

Frustration, stress, burnout

Head steams from thinking, back tense from sitting over documents and computer, patience is running out, time is running out, because despite the fact that even a day somehow started to have 31h , it’s not enough anyway. People don’t do what was agreed because they either don’t have the time or they don’t know how, or they have forgotten or misunderstood us. The knife in the pocket begins to open. In addition, there are 100 irresponsible messages on the e-mail, 12 missed messages on the phone screen, 13 text messages (why 13?), And in addition, they send us or we send ourselves for training (which takes a priceless 2 days a month, 18h in total, at 17h and 5 minutes too much) and say on it: be respectful, trustful and polite. Yaah? Since everything wku # @ $ @ # a. So the man wants to deal with it.

First, he fires up Instagram or Facebook to rejuvenate himself, click through, just like that. And even for a moment it succeeds, but when we watch our friends, celebrities or completely strangers who look beautiful, have a lot, more and more, are smiling, healthy, pretty, something starts to sting. It’s not jealousy, it’s not pissed off, it’s not sad, or maybe a little bit of everything?

So he turns on Netflix, HBO Go or any other Showmax to watch a series and disconnect from everyday life. It works. The series is addictive. But after two episodes, there is an advertisement for three other series proposals. So he tests, checks. After a while, 5 different movies and series are open in the “Forwarding” section. Everyone is interesting, everyone has to be finished, because they have to. Well, no exaggeration, after all, you have common sense. You have to learn something, not stare at the illusion of cinema.

So it starts youtube, google, looks for tips, articles, videos that will inspire you and allow you to cope with the sheer volume of everything. And it hits, but suddenly there are 10 of them in the browser tabs. Some are 3 minutes, others 30 minutes. And God forbid, he goes to the 60-90-minute interview, which, worst of all, is interesting and wants to watch it.

During this time, for the name day, he receives three books from his family, which supposedly need to be read, because they are life-changing bestsellers.

And the fire is fueled by Dębowski, who sends an article about 4 ku @ #% # @ competences that need to be learned for the next years.

Has this world gone crazy?

Has this world gone crazy? Is it just me? Asks a question somewhere in the middle of your head. And right next to it: What the fu # @ $ k !. The third thought says: if it were the result of still sick ambition, workaholism, obsession with money and matter, which says: do more, get more. This is not. This reality is the result of normal, reliable functioning. Pie # @ it is all .

But it’s not that easy. After all, you have to take care of the house, do some shopping, look for holiday offers, go with the children to classes. In the meantime, he will hear from his family: You’re so tired. Please rest.

Give me a break, everyone. Only where can you find this peace, since wherever you turn something, someone. This is another novelty.

But it’s actually a piece of cake. Because that’s just the tip of the iceberg. Underneath all of this, there are decisions to be made at work, thoughts to be considered, strategic analyzes to be performed, which must be a response to what is happening in the team, department, company, market. The higher we are in the structure of the company or the larger the company we have, the more there are. So thought # 669 of the day jumps in: and the hell it was, and what the hell is it all . And when in the end thought no. 669 seems to be the most constructive, it is the so-called “Mountain” – that is, the boss or the market suddenly surprises and changes the reality that you have been working for in the last few months with one decision. Thought 670: pie @ # $ ć that’s all.

Thought: 672: So I’m looking for solutions – so developmentally. So wise not to immerse yourself in stagnation and stagnation. So he watches, learns, finds more and more materials, training, and videos on YouTube. But again there is an effect such that online training awaits unexpected, and yet it is all so important, inspiring.
It’s all interesting, but is it for me? When to go over all this?

In addition, he accidentally finds additional blogs, videos on YT on the Internet and the awareness that you can invest in the stock market, cryptocurrencies, gold, real estate. There is knowledge that artificial intelligence and blockchain are changing reality. The news of rising tensions in the world and the rise of far-right sentiment in many countries is starting to be frightening.
Thought: 7491: How to respond to this? Do something about it?

So he goes back to Instagram and sees the cool life of cool people. For a moment, these smiles, pretty bodies and faces give an injection of positive feelings. But then the same thing again: compare yourself and think 8111: They feel so good, and me? Why is it all spinning, overwhelming and chasing, and others are doing brilliantly. I’m such a fag. What am I doing wrong?

When I asked Lena what this man did: What is he doing wrong?

replied:

• The answer is simple: Nothing.
• Me: Most likely nothing?
• Does nothing wrong.
• Are you sure or maybe?
• Everything is OK. The problem is not in it. He only needs to do 4 things.
• How do you know? – I ask
• Because I am L.E.N.A.
• Come on, Lena.
• L.E.N.A.
• So?
• Know Alexa or Siri?
• Yes.

The world of VUCA, the world of excess and LEAP

I will finish this dialogue another time. An introduction introduced by Lena, or L.E.N.A. is in part a description of the VUCA world, i.e. the world of instability, uncertainty, complexity, ambiguity (Volatility, Uncertainty, Complexity, Ambiguity). The term created by the American army fits perfectly into the professional and business world and has been slowly settling in the international consciousness for several years as a way of describing reality.
I like to call it shorter : Welcome to the world of “N” or excess, because it is the excess of everything that creates VUCA. Man goes crazy with excess. The excess of prosperity is harmful, makes you lazy, the excess of non-existence overwhelms you.

Officially in literature eg Bob Johansen in his book “Leaders Make the Future: Ten New Leadership Skills for an Uncertain World” writes that to deal with VUCA you have to use VUCA, but reversed. In order not to have V (olatility) – instability is needed V (ision) – Vision. For there to be U (ncertainty) – uncertainty, U (nderstanding ) – understanding yourself, people, looking from a wider perspective. To avoid C (omplexity) – complexity is needed C (larity) – clarity, clarity, focus on goals. So that there is no A (mbiguity). – ambiguity is needed A (gility) – agility, flexibility, communication flow, quick decisions. The CEE Global organization proposes the concept of LEAP – meaning a jump, it is an acronym for the words: L iberal – openness, flexibility, adaptation of changes, E xuberant – spontaneous involvement of others through your passion and optimism, A gility – agile response and development of competences such as: wide viewing, critical thinking, emotional intelligence and social, P artnership – cooperation based on trust, respect, real care for other people on a human and business level.

Practical psychology and mental training

My answer to VUCA (in addition to using inverse VUCA and the jump rule – LEAP) are questions that based on the VUCA concept, the “N” world and my Change Value Process (CVP ) I created some time ago.

Here are 10 questions that I keep asking myself:

1. What is unstable and too volatile in your life and / or business?
2. And what do I want to do with it? What to let go of, what to allow, what to allow, what to accept?
3. What is uncertain about your life and / or business?
4. And what do I want to do with it? What to let go of, what to allow, what to allow, what to accept?
5. What is too complex in your life and / or business?
6. And what do I want to do with it? What to let go of, what to allow, what to allow, what to accept?
7. What is ambiguous in your life and / or business?
8. And what do I want to do with it? What to let go of, what to allow, what to allow, what to accept?
9. What is excess in my life and / or business, what is too much?
10. And what do I want to do with it? What to let go of, what to allow, what to allow, what to accept?

And I search for answers – over and over again. Half the questions are the same: And what do I want to do about it: what to let go, what to allow, what to allow, what to accept? This is my holy four who has been with me for several years. To deal with a reality that is sometimes beyond our control, we need to catch on to something we have control over. And we have influence on four elements: Letting go, Allowing, Allowing, Acceptance. If someone likes acronyms, he can create: ODPA, DOPA, PODA, ADOP, APOD, APDO. None of them sounds sexy, so I don’t use the acronym 🙂

On a life, personal, emotional, relationship, family level there are things we must learn to let go, allow, allow, accept.

The same goes for business, strategy, sales, management.

If we don’t, we’ll go crazy. Because the world “N” described by Lena sometimes we really do not have a direct 100% influence. We have 20%, 50%, 80%. And that’s what we should focus on. We must always ask ourselves two more questions:

1. What can I influence?
2. What do I want to influence?

The second issue is our inner world, that is our psyche. This blog is about the psychology of the future. And now and in the next 10-20 years like never before, the psyche and psychology will play a huge role. Otherwise, the world of VUCA (now I realized that it sounds like a Moomin Buka. Were you afraid of it too? In general, Moomins are a bit weird. Sweet, but strange. quotes “- this is by the way), if the world” N “swallows us, we will collapse mentally.

Therefore the 4 competences mentioned in the title are skills

1. Letting go of what we should let go, leave behind, cut off, give up, let go.
2. Allowing what we did not allow, and it is worth taking a given thing, idea, action into account.
3. Allowing ourselves to do what we have not allowed ourselves to do so far, and it’s worth it, because sometimes we stick to the old patterns too much
4. Accepting what we have not accepted so far, and it is worthwhile because some things burn up too much and some things should be simply understood more deeply.

We are not threatening

Finally, one more way to VUCO-Buka and the “N” world. For those who are with me through the website, e-mails, online courses or social media, I have prepared many premieres with my team, which are to help and support every day. Stay tuned as things will happen:

A week ago we started the Daily Dębowski Podcast – for those who don’t know you, please visit: https://adamdebowski.pl/blog/podcast-debowski-daily/debowski-daily- episodes-0-4 /

or to the Iphone application “Podcasts” (purple) – search for Daily Dębowski and subscribe. On Android, you need to download the app: Stitcher, create an account and also find Daily Dębowski. Daily – that is, daily 3-10 minutes of audio, for your efficiency and balance – combining these two goals and ideas is crucial in order not to get lost.